Guardrails Week #5 Me & the Mrs.

This past week in Guardrails we talked about the guardrails that we should have in our marriages and relationships.

Emmy and Tiffany really helped teach last week by giving a voice to the woman's side of a marriage along with some of the guardrails they have as wives and what they expect out of their husbands.

Listed below are a few of the guardrails we talked about:

Guarding your tongue 

-Proverbs 18:21 (NIV) “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

In one week the average person speaks enough words to write a 500 page book. A lot of times we talk too much and listen too little. (make a chart of the things you say in a day) We often think that our ideas are right and nobody else’s idea is even worth considering. 

Don’t bring up the past-this is like rubbing salt in a wound

Don’t interrupt one another. Agree to listen to each other’s feelings whether you agree or not.

No name calling. Name calling focuses on the character of the individual rather than on the particular problem at hand. 

Don't use "you" messages.“You never” or “you always” or “you’re just like”

Avoid fighting in front of the kids. This doesn’t mean that you have to give your kids the impression that your family is conflict free. 

Remain as calm as possible. Be honest about your true emotions but keep them under control. 

Make Psalms 141:3 your prayer (NIV) Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips.    

If you guys have any questions about some of the other guardrails we talked about feel free to email me or Pastor Marty.

We hope to see you this week in Guardrails as we discuss Guardrails..."Once and for All!" - We live with an internal conflict between our values what we know is right and our desire for immediate fulfillment. In areas like finances, relationships, and careers, a guardrail can feel like a barrier to something that seems good now. So why bother having guardrails if they just add to the tension? In this message, Andy presents a story from the life of Daniel, persuading us to establish guardrails now . . . once and for all.

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